Accountability – do not expect the narcissist to do it.
Fairness or Justice – do not wait to ever wait for this to happen.
Empathy or Compassion – do not think they will give you any, unless they do it for an audience.
Closure – they deliberately do not give you this, so give it to yourself.
Smear campaign – do not react to it as they want you to feed into it, instead ignore it and move on.
Hurt – they have absolved themselves of any guilt for causing you the hurt, they believe this is your fault and they do not have care about your pain.
Anger, pain and revenge – do seek dewell on it or do it as you might as well dig yourself another grave next to theirs for yourself. Don’t turn yourself into something or someone that is not a true representation of you and what you are not proud of. Do not lower yourself to their level. Channel your emotions into something positive for yourself.
Hope and belief that they will change, or that they will come back a changed person – this will not happen for you or their next supply or the one after that.
Love towards them - it is not love no matter how deep it feels, it is a trauma bond, remember that.
Karma – what they are is Karma enough, so do not wish anything bad on them because it comes back to you.
Whenever you are stuck on any of these points, get familiar with radical acceptance.
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