Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is a humanistic, systemic, and experiential approach that heavily relies on emotion theory and attachment theory. It operates on the premise that emotions have adaptive potential, which, when harnessed, can assist partners in transforming their challenging emotional experiences. EFT emphasizes the lived experiences of individuals in relationships, examining the emotional dynamics and expressions within them. It also takes a systemic view, the entire relationship and the patterns that lead couples to feel stuck, considering both their familial and relational histories.

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What is emotionally focused couples therapy?

Originated in Canada during the 1980s, spearheaded by Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Greenberg, aimed at enhancing attachment and bonding in adult relationships. While Dr. Greenberg focused on individual applications of emotion, Dr. Johnson continued to refine EFT for couples. Grounded in extensive research on bonding, EFT therapists possess insights into relationship dynamics, enabling them to identify and rectify issues effectively. The method has proven effective for couples dealing with depression, trauma, and other relational challenges.

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What is the purpose of EFT?

Aims to foster secure emotional bonds, enhance relationship satisfaction, intimacy, and trust. While past events may be revisited when relevant, the primary focus remains on current emotional experiences and interactions, facilitating change in the present.

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What can EFT for couples help with?

EFT is beneficial for couples facing conflict, dissatisfaction, depression, and other relational injuries. However, may not be suitable in cases of domestic violence or ongoing affairs, necessitating an initial assessment for safety.

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What to expect from EFT

In the first session, therapists explore the couple's background and current challenges, followed by individual sessions to delve into personal histories. Couples then return to therapy together, identifying and addressing negative interaction patterns to restore intimacy.

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How long does EFT last?

Typically, EFT lasts between 12-20, but may extend for couples with complex issues.

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Working with an EFT therapist

Prioritise creating a safe environment, helping partners understand their emotions, and promoting positive interactions that foster connection and.

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What are the stages of EFT?

Stage 1 - de-escalation, where counsellor helps couples recognise negative and underlying emotions.

Stage 2 - changing interactional positions, partners learn to share vulnerable feelings and needs, ultimately leading to greater emotional security.

Stage 3 - consolidation, develop new understanding and positive attachment behaviors, resulting in a more attuned relationship.